Relationships: Listening is Good But Understanding is Better

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 by Maria Grazia Swan

This I believe…when it comes to relationships listening is good, but understanding is better.

Maybe it is just a sign of the times, this perpetual multitasking of the brain. We drive with the radio on, the finger on the iPhone-Droid-Blackberry, fill in your own blank. If that’s not bad enough, we often have people and pets in the car with us. People and pets we care about. How can we give 100% of our attention to one task without crashing, hanging up or ignoring the loved ones in the car? I bet most of you think you are so used to this routine you can pull off all three activities without a hitch.

I beg to differ. You can read the headlines in the daily paper: car accident caused by driver who was texting. Pet or child left in the hot car.

Now replace people and pets and phones with relationships. Remember, when it comes to relations, you get out what you put into it, pretty much like a piggy bank or your computer. I’m aware there are exceptions, but we would be better forgetting the multitasking and giving our undivided attention even if it means cutting down on time spent together. Quality over quantity.

I can’t think of a better season than Summer for quality time. The joy of walking hand in hand on a deserted beach.  Going to dinner to a quiet restaurant with a view to die for.

Just kidding.

We live in California where a deserted beach is a mirage and the restaurant with a view has a one week waiting for a table. But whatever you do with your special one, remember to leave the phone in the car and focus on the view and the hand you are holding. It is still multitasking, I guess, but in a much more rewarding way. 

Maria Grazia Swan Maria Grazia Swan is an author and motivational speaker who shares relationship advice and guidance for mature women re-entering the dating scene. Maria empowers and encourages single women to be bold, fearless, and sexy in their pursuit of life and love after age 45.

An award recipient from the Women’s National Book Association, Maria Grazia Swan is the author of Boomer Babes: True Tales of Love and Lust in the Later Years (Leisure Books) and Love Thy Sister (Zander Books). Her short story, “Bohemian Rhapsody” is included the anthology, Medley of Murder (Red Coyote Press).

Maria is working on her new book, Old Flames Burn Hottest. If you have a story to share, she wants to connect with you! Join her Facebook page and learn more.


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